?I think It?s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not to be defined by another person? Oscar Wilde.

During my stay in Brest I had to face silence, a reason was that I cannot speak Russian. Then I had to look people in the eyes, appreciate all their gestures and body language. There was another reason, there nobody knew me therefore they did not have a prejudice about me, about my character, about my professional life. It was a brutal experience, because it is like being born again at adulthood. You can become the person you had dreamt yourself to be. But, have you ever dreamt how you would like to be? Molding yourself with freedom is not easy.

Are the others a mirror where we can see ourselves reflected ? Some argue this statement. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqDdvvFRtcA). But beware of those who disturb us, who say things we don?t like to hear, who drive us mad? They are a mirror, as well, you are always in front of yourself.

Perhaps this is why the poem by Antonio Machado comes to my mind:

Converso con el hombre que siempre va conmigo?
quien habla solo espera hablar a Dios un d?a;
mi soliloquio es pl?tica con ese buen amigo
que me ense?? el secreto de la filantrop?a.?

Lee todo en:?Retrato – Poemas de Antonio Machado?http://www.poemas-del-alma.com/retrato.htm#ixzz3Uv0lrBe1

In our hurried lifestyle it is difficult to find spare time to be alone, although it is even more difficult not to feel defined by anyone.

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